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Most worthwhile things in life turn out to be harder than you expect
Sunday, 30 September 2007
What is it that gets people down? All sorts of things, of course. It may be a chemical imbalance in the brain, a family tragedy, or an accident. But most of the time, the reason for ongoing dissatisfaction is that people simply aren't getting what they want out of life. They feel they aren't where they should be.
No matter who you are, chances are there's something missing from your life that you regret. And what probably makes it even harder is that you know people who succeed in that particular area. They seem to have it under control, while you - clearly - don't. And you don't know how to get to where they are.
That's because most worthwhile things in life turn out to be harder than you expect.
One area that this occurs in is relationships. We all know someone (or if you're lucky you are someone) who seems to attract everyone they meet. The girl who gets asked out on a million dates, or the guy who has pretty women hanging off him.
If you're not this particular person, being in the same social setting as them can be extremely emasculating. While they are lapping up the endless attention, you seem to have turned invisible.
Of course there are remedies to this situation. You can practice being more confident, dress better, or develop a more interesting personality. But this is extremely hard to do. Much harder than most people realise.
Another area is in finances. Some people seem to be expert at getting well-paid jobs and managing their money. Others, meanwhile, struggle their whole life. No matter what they try, they still seem to be in a financial hole.
That's because getting on top of money issue is much harder than most people expect.
I could go on with examples, but I'm sure you get the general idea. In fact, the problems with a lot of these areas is what makes them so much part of the focus of people's lives.
If an issue is easily solved, then it's quickly forgotten. It's those thorns that we can't seem to remove from our bodies that obsess us.
Most worthwhile things in life will turn out to be harder than you expect. But that, also, is part of their beauty. For in overcoming the challenges faced, you will grow as a person. And your situation will become better than you could have imagined, not necessarily in a material sense, but in gaining the satisfaction of having won a hard-fought battle.
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