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Don't be a believer in fast and easy solutions to life's big problems
Friday, 29 September 2006
We all face big problems in this life. Things that dominate our psyche for a time and conspire to make us miserable. Nobody escapes at least some of these types of challenges.
Examples include: loneliness, sexual frustration, lack of money, boredom, having to do things we don't want to, and dissatisfaction. These types of problems can sometimes seem so big that they feel overwhelming. They can feel like a big weight pushing down on top of us from above, sucking out all of our energy.
I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.
Where a big danger is faced when you have such problems is if you start listening to the siren call of easy solutions. So many people get caught up in the temptation of easy solutions, that you have to be aware that you too are at risk of believing in them.
Here are a few examples of the type of thing I mean:
- Short of money? Just gamble on some high-stakes game and your problems could be solved overnight. Day-trading, casinos, horse-racing, the easy solutions on offer here are plentiful.
- Lonely or sexually frustrated? Just head to the local drunken singles bar for a night of meaningless sex. Of course, you'll likely feel dissatisfied and cheap tomorrow, but what the heck.
- Bored or miserable? Just pop a pill, hit the bottle or shoot up. This one's based on the illusion that emotions should be as easy to manipulate as a TV remote control.
- Don't like school? Just drop out and start working for real money instead. Take control of your life and who needs an education anyway?
The reason life's big problems are so - well - big is because they can't be solved by easy solutions. If it was possible to pop a pill, sleep with a stranger or make a bet to crack them, they wouldn't cause so many people so much hassle.
In fact, easy solutions just tend to make the problems even worse. If you gamble away your money, you're going to be even more broke. If you go after cheap, fast relationships, you have no time to invest in long satisfying ones. If you take drugs to control your emotions, the outcome is almost certainly a loss of control.
Don't be a believer in fast and easy solutions to life's big problems. Solving them requires patience and work. Taking short-cuts is an almost certain path to misery.
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