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Become a stubborn competitor
Monday, 29 August 2005
There's one character trait that unites almost all the successful people. It's seen in those with good careers, good financial positions, and attractive partners.
That character trait is that of stubborn competitor.
Whether it's the woman who wants to be more beautiful than those around her, the man who's not happy until he has a big house to bring up his family in, the businesswoman who wants to dominate her industry, or the teenager who wants to be the best tennis player ever - such people just can't be happy unless they're on top.
It's the world view of the winner, and you should develop it in yourself.
A strong competitive streak is the great motivator that drives our personalities to improve ourselves. If you can see people that are ahead of you, a determination to beat them will lead you to achieve more than you could have dreamed possible. Never be happy to be second best.
That doesn't mean being a sore loser, or withdrawing into depression when you can't be number one. It means having a deep determination to improve your game until you are the winner. To take the steps necessary to reach the top.
Fan the flame of competition inside you. Visualize what it would be like to get what you want and see that as the rightful state of things.
Don't let early difficulties prevent you from seizing that birthright. Everyone is hopeless when they first try out any activity . Whether its taking our first step, going out on our first date, starting our career, or starting our first business - to fail is the lot of the beginner.
What distinguishes winners from losers is the determination to take that failure and turn it into success. Inside their own mind, the winner can see past the humiliation of defeat towards the possibility of triumph.
"Let them laugh at me and see me as irrelevant," the winner thinks. "One day they'll see what a mistake they made."
All the successful person has to do is work at their game and one day they will take what's rightfully theirs - victory.
Keep a hunger to win and the will to endure today's defeat for tomorrow's triumph, and you too will join the ranks of the successful.
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