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It's not going to just fall into your lap
Monday, 28 May 2007
I meet a lot of people who are dissatisfied with their lives. They feel they don't have enough money, enough love or enough recognition. They see others around them getting all the rewards while they're passed by for the good things in life.
But a lot of the time, the outcomes they're getting are a direct result of the effort they put into improving their lives. They simply sit around waiting for the good things to fall into their laps. They refuse to acknowledge that you get out of life what you put in.
Let's say you're lonely. You don't have enough friends or enough love in your life. Well, sitting home watching TV and moping about it obviously isn't going to fix that situation. Yet that's exactly the strategy many people who find themselves lonely follow. It's not that hard to meet new people if you're willing to put in the effort.
Join a sports club, go dancing, study something or even try out speed-dating. There are so many activities that involve interacting with others, that there's really no excuse for sitting at home alone and miserable.
Or take people who complain their job is disappointing. Yet they keep turning up every morning, doing exactly the same thing and hoping something will change without them having to do anything. Instead, they should work to improve their qualifications, apply for other jobs, or learn new skills. It's not rocket-science.
Of course, putting in the effort to improve your circumstances isn't always easy. In many such endeavors, you face the very real possibility of rejection, failure or humiliation. But overcoming these dangers is simply the price you have to pay.
Go out there and face the world. The good things in life aren't just going to fall into your lap. You have to make the effort to bring them in. This involves risk, time and work. But the rewards are worth it.
Sitting around doing the same old things you've always done is simply going to give you the same old results. Try something different. In fact, become addicted to doing new things and experimenting with the tools of success. You'll be amazed at the results.
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