The world is an amazing place
"Man is born free, yet everywhere he lies in chains," Voltaire said. He could just as easily have been talking about internal chains as external ones.
The richness and variety of experience the world has to offer is incredible. There are hundreds of different cultures, millions of books, thousands of sports and games, all types of different landscapes, many varieties of foods and seven billion people. Even with all this on offer, many people feel bored and uninspired. They feel the world has nothing new to offer them.
New experience is the essence of life. We're here to take in as much as the world has to offer, yet every street is filled with people stuck in their same old routine.
I believe it's because we imprison ourselves. We're so sure of what we do and don't like, that we prevent ourselves from experiencing new things. Here are some examples of the types of attitude I'm talking about:
- "I could never live in another city."
- "I don't like Asian food."
- "That's not my type of movie."
- "He's not the kind of person who has anything to offer me."
- "I'm not into water sports."
- "Science doesn't interest me."
- "Art is boring."
I'm sure you can add some of your own. The problem is that people are often too quick to judge what is and isn't for them. Often, this is based on fear and misunderstanding. We know what we're comfortable with and it's easier to just stick with that. The problem is that we can become so comfortable and limited that we become bored and miserable.
One of the most important gifts a parent can give a child is to have curiosity about the world. It is the explorers in life that are often the most happy. They take risks and try things out, even if they're not sure if it's something they'll like. Take on this attitude yourself and you'll enrich your life beyond belief.
An example of this is a woman I know well who was convinced she didn't like Chinese food. She'd tried it a couple of times, and decided it wasn't for her. It was just too strange. Many times, I tried to convince her to try a type of Chinese food that I liked called Dim Sum. It's a little different from regular Chinese food, and involves waiters bringing around a variety of small dishes to try. Eventually, I managed to convince her to come with me. Now, Dim Sum is her favorite food, and she wants to go there all the time.
The world has endless variety. It is an amazing place. Go out there and explore it. Your life will be the richer for it.
Sure, many times you'll be disappointed. But sometimes you'll find wonderful new things that you never knew of.
Pick up a book on a subject you've never read about, try some food you've always been convinced you didn't like, hire a film that you've never heard of, and travel to a place you've never thought of going to.
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