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Don't let your problems be because of laziness
We all have problems. Something is missing from each of our lives. And that may be driving you a little bit crazy.
Perhaps you have difficulty finding love. Perhaps your financial situation isn't so good. Maybe you're unhappy in your work. Maybe you have some kind of health problem.
Whatever, it's almost certain that something isn't perfect for you right this minute. That's life. You can't have everything that you want. There will always be something missing. Some problem you have to deal with.
But you are not completely powerless in the face of these troubles. There is something you can do and that is simply - work to make them go away.
Sure, there are some situations where you can't do anything and just have to accept them. If you've been disabled in a car-accident, you probably can't fix the problem. If someone's decided they don't love you, there's likely not much you can do about it.
But don't let the problems in your life be created or perpetuated through laziness. Let bad luck be the arbiter of what goes wrong in your life. And be brave enough to recognise the difference between the two different types.
Some troubles will inevitably take a huge amount of work to defeat. You may not even know where to start with them. But start you must.
Let's say you haven't had a lot of luck in your love-life. This can be very painful, but to say there's nothing you can do about it is wrong. Work to improve your appearance, get out and meet more people, take steps to realise what makes you unattractive and try to improve yourself.
Or let's say you're stuck in a dead-end job with little money. It may be a big mountain to climb, but this is certainly a problem you can solve. Get educated, apply for jobs, pay off your debts, learn about personal finance.
Are such problems easy to solve? No. But you've only yourself to blame if you don't at least put in a major effort to do so.
We are all, in some respects, at the mercy of luck. But we aren't completely powerless. Let your problems be caused by bad luck, not by laziness.
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