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How you recover from a crisis is what defines you


One thing that’s certain in life is that you’re occasionally going to be hit by a big unexpected shock. Perhaps you will have a health problem, the death of a loved one or a financial loss. Maybe divorce will strike you, you’ll lose your job or your house will burn down. Unfortunately it's almost impossible to escape from such events.
 
It’s how we respond and recover from such crises that really defines us. Some people let one big shock haunt them for the rest of their lives, while others seem to bounce back almost immediately.
 
I once heard a psychiatrist in a radio interview talking about this. He said the main difference between the happy people and the sad people he met had little to do with circumstances. He had met quadriplegics who were optimists and young millionaires who were miserable. The key trait he noticed in those who were enjoying their lives was the ability to move on after a big shock.
 
It is emotional resilience which helps to make our lives bearable. No matter how many material comforts you have, without such resilience, you can spend much of your life wallowing in misery.
 
Does this mean you shouldn’t give yourself time to grieve after a loss?
 
Of course not. The point is to eventually recover enough to continue with a happy life. If years pass and your behaviour and emotions are still negatively affected, you know you have a problem.
 
Try to become one of those who can recover after such events. Both by training your emotions to become strong, and by preparing for unexpected crises.
 
This is one of the biggest secrets to happiness.





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