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Be creative, any idiot can destroy
We all feel miserable, lonely, or bored sometimes. You'll almost certainly go through stages in life when these feelings will seem almost unbearable. It's inevitable.
And something powerful will likely drive you from within to act. Act now! Anything just to get out of feeling this way.
What you decide to do during these dark periods when you're almost delirious with misery can have powerful consequences.
You could choose to try and dull your pain with drugs or alcohol. Or you could become involved in violence, crime and other dangerous behavior. In order to relieve yourself from the terrible burden you carry you may try to manage your emotions by chasing bigger and bigger buzzes, or drugging yourself into oblivion in the hope that the feelings will all go away.
Or, you could choose an even darker path.
But that would be a mistake. Because as well as destructive actions, you have the choice of being creative. Sometimes, it can seem like the more difficult choice, but in fact it's the easier one.
By choosing destruction, you only make the problem worse. Your attempts to push the problem away by reckless behavior will likely only make it come back with interest. As the old saying goes - the first thing to do when you find yourself in a hole, is stop digging.
If you decide to step into oblivion, you are giving up the most wonderful gift you could ever be given - time on this Earth. Sure there are many downs during this time, but there can also be many ups. And it's worth being here for those.
You may say you wish you'd never been born during the dark days; but if that had happened, you'd never have heard your favorite music, tasted your favorite food, met your best friend, or even laughed. Would you really want to have missed out on all those things?
Choose to use your need for change to be creative. Just a little bit at a time, start lifting yourself out of the hole by doing things to improve your own life and that of those around you. Sure it seems difficult and may even appear to be a lot of work. But just chip away at it little by little.
You likely know what creative activities you can undertake already, but here are some suggestions:
- Improving your education.
- Getting involved in some charity work.
- Joining some kind of activity like dance classes or creative writing.
- Improving your social life.
- Organizing an event.
- Improving your fitness.
- Building a website, business, or organization.
- And so on.
Just spend a little bit of time and energy on improving things every day. It doesn't have to be desperate and frantic, just regular.
On a day-to-day basis, you may feel as if you're getting nowhere, but time and steady effort is an amazing thing. One day, you'll look back and wonder what you'd been making all that fuss about. Things won't seem so bad after all, especially now you have this wonderful new thing that you've built in your life.
Any moron can be destructive, choose the smart path and create something new and brilliant to give your life meaning.
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